- Also, how did you find the right mentors in the course of your career?
These three questions relate a bit, but are sufficiently different that I’ll answer them independently.
如果我只能给出一个非常可行的建议，那将是通过促销包技术，Aka Julia Evan的brag document。相反，我也可以在这个主题上漫步一段时间。
When you talk to folks later in their career, they’ve spent so much time crafting their career narrative that it can be hard for them to remember which parts of what they’re saying arerealand which parts are the story they’ve practiced telling about themselves for the last decade. For example, earlier this year I tried towrite up my own career story以一种承认运气和特权在我的成就中发挥了多少的方式。这仍然是一个叙述 - 我们这些日子都在一定程度上 - 但希望至少是一个相对诚实的人。
我写的最好的职业建议是A forty year career, which tries to think about what our careers can be if we focus away from liquidity events and towards fulfilling work. Of course, this advice is harder for some folks to follow, who experience a tech industry that is indifferent to their continued participation: “如果专注于增长和参与，我将如何对我的工作接近，如果我在股权和IPO中衡量时代，而且在几十年中衡量的话？我专注于一个少量建造在一起的东西，每个人都使他人更具影响力，随着时间的推移。“
我还在职业建议上写了一篇关于职业建议的一篇文章，Some career advice，这并不是特别好，但有一些通用的相关建议，一些与某人〜5年特别相关的职业：
- “You’re just getting started.Particularly in tech in the Bay area, you can find yourself in some companies and jobs where you feel like an old-timer even though you’re only十甚至fiveyears into your career. Although it certainly感觉that way, rest assured it is not the case. You’re still just getting started, there is still more to learn and new things to do.”
- “Decisions aren’t permanent.Increasingly I believe that there are very few trapdoor decisions. Do you want to become a manager? Go for it. It’s not a中性的event to return from management to engineering, but it’s a very common operation that many folks do successfully.”
- “Learn what you can learn everywhere you go, but don’t stay where you aren’t valued.If you’re lucky, at some point in your career you’ll find a company that values you much, much more than previous ones. Typically this will be because you’ve finally found a place where your values are mostly aligned. If you don’t feel that way, know that there is another company out there, somewhere, that will align with your values and they will value you much more as a result. That said, it takes a while to find such places, so don’t wait to learn until you find one, be a deliberate learner everywhere you go.”
- “* *建立威望的水库。一旦你的效果me “looks right”, you’ll have more and easier access to interesting opportunities, including second opportunities if something you try doesn’t end up working out. Even if you enter the industry without much prestige, this is something you can deliberately build over time by working at increasingly well-respected companies, writing online, maintaining relationships and speaking at meetups (perhaps graduating eventually to conferences).”
所有这些重要的教训了我,nd in particular, the last two have helped me manage my mental wellness more effectively as I’ve come to understand them better.
First, a tangential answer.冠军做问题花时间在有限的范围内追求它们是有用的，特别是对于那些不像软件工程师的陈规定型图像的人。但是，重要的是要记住标题是不够的。让一名高级头衔很容易，你最终停滞不前。
Another indirect answer is that unless you have a very clear passion, I’d recommend against specializing too much at this point in your career. I’ve seen folks get framed into a given role and be unable to escape that role for decades. Part of that is, probably, their responsibility for not being more creative in how they switch roles, but there are real forces in play that create career inertia. It’s particularly hard to overcome the financial aspects of that inertia when you have significant responsibilities that make it hard to take a temporary financial hit.
As a final indirect answer–then I’ll actually answer the question–I’d recommend that folks be very cautious about moving from core engineering roles into what I’ll very loosely describe as adjacent roles like TPM, PM, Engineering Management or SRE. If you struggle it can be hard to transition back, but even moreso if you thrive it’s even harder to transition back–how do you step away from all that success? My general advice is to avoid changing roles until you’ve finished what you want to accomplish within your current role–you won’’t always retrace your steps later.
Alright then, so what should you actually focus on?
- 做更多和不同的有趣和困难的事情- 这些会以显着的方式延伸和塑造你。这通常是特定项目超过公司使命，这将为增长的最大机会创造。
- Pace yourself- 如果你燃烧，请解决。无论如何你会在一年内获得促销活动。如果您的公司在根本上设计围绕燃烧的人，并且伤害了您，请离开。你会发现一个更好的机会，如果你等你的话，你会在面试或花几个月的失业恢复时间时成为自己的壳牌。
- **Work on what matters- **花更多的时间在您的组织价值和更少的时间对抗您的组织对他们没有价值的事情的时间。如果某些东西对您来说非常重要，通常最好找到一个值，这些公司比试图强迫文化变革作为软件工程师。当然，如果它是一个适度的变化，那么有灰色的阴影，当然，当然尝试首先创建该更改。
- Build a network of peers- 对等关系是秘密推动者，以更好地工作和工作中的成功。
- Build financial resilience- 在您的职业生涯早期省钱会为您和您关心的人创造灵活性。
How do you find the right mentors?
去年我写了关于我找到的策略Meeting people，这是关于网络建设的一些普遍建议。在实际发现导师方面，我的经验有点像什么ritu文森特’s shared in her StaffEng interview, “对我来说，最有影响的是，我有很多人认为是导师，通常是朋友，前经理和我与之合作的人。我有一个体面的经常性每月午餐，咖啡聊天和晚餐，与我在过去与我合作，认识我，我相信。这是关于职业挑战和增长的谈话，让我在我的职业生涯中。“
I’ve never found the idea of a capital M Mentor to be super useful for me, but there are dozens of folks in my life who I go to sometimes to get their perspective. The two things that have been most useful for me are meeting folks by working together at medium to large companies (Stripe was… maybe 400 people when I joined an ~2,000 when I left. Uber was ~1,000 when I joined and maybe ~8,000 when I left, Yahoo was 13,000 when I joined and, ahh, 9,000 or so when I left, but I was so early in my career that I didn’t meet many folks), and forming various learning circles and communities. For example, early this year I formed aCTO/VPE learning circle（真的很好，虽然没有亲自接受更多的人，会强烈鼓励更多的人像这样一个人的群体，每周1-2次举办1-2次，以便在一起讨论挑战）和最近的挑战TechWriters discord（这并不是真正的工作，在那里相当低的参与，而是一个支持的地方，并通过它遇到了一些真正令人印象深刻的人。
If you are more of a Mentor type, my best advice would be to send a really concise, thoughtful question to a dozen folks you look up to, and then if they respond send them another similarly thoughtful question six months later. Do this three or four times and you have a mentor who does have your context and appreciates how thoughtful you’ve been about their time, and most of those folks at that point would be glad to have a 30 minute video call where they wouldn’t have been engaged enough earlier on.